So, today in Daily Candy (well the dedicated email for SF Daily Candy), the topic was harvesting your eggs and saving them for the future.
It’s interesting that this is the topic after last nights innuendos. I’ve been going back and forth on the child thing for years. But in the end, I always hoped that I would find the right guy for me, and dropped it. With all the babies in my group of friends right now, it’s really hard to deny that I’d like child…
Miss Lisa told me last night I should just go to the sperm bank and take care of it. Hell, Brendan even offered to help me out once. I could just take him up on it. But then there is the whole grad school thing now. I just don’t know what to do.
Maybe this is the option… Spend $15,000 now to harvest some relatively healthy eggs, so that in 5 years (when it could be a better time to have a child) those good eggs would still be available. I just don’t know. Do you give up on your dream of a family to have a career? Or do you just not worry about it and get yourself pregnant? Any suggestions?
Interesting topic. When I got married oh so long ago we decided to not have children. God changed our mind when I came up pregnant despite the precautions we took. 21+ years later she is a doll and I love and like her very much. However, if our plans hadn’t been changed for us would I have regretted not having a child? Probably not. But I imagine for someone who really wants a child then it would be a different answer. I guess you just have to go with your heart. A good parent is a good parent…regardless of how they became one.
you and I…. we are on the same wavelength.
I have baby fever right now too.
whoa, what a crazy topic!
My take? If you want the child in 5 years, adopt
I’m a big advocate of it.
But moreso than that, I hear ya on the kid thing. I am very much torn now if I want them or not. I think I am still too young to figure that out (you’d think I’d know by 26).
If you wanted a child on your own, I think that would be a great thing. What is somewhat complicated and unfortunate, though, is that it might be harder to find a guy…kids can scare men (and women) off. I’m trying not to generalize, but it’s true. However, maybe you find a guy with kids of his own…and he’s a great dad. so there’s that.
yes, I know I offered you like no answers.
From what I understand, there is never a time when a person really feels ready.
I used to want a child very badly. Then, when it appeared I was going to end up being a single mom, anyway I sliced it, I decided that I would not have any children of my own, but if I was ever in a position where I felt that I could support a child on my own, I would adopt.
I believe I will regret never having been pregnant, but not that I did not have a child when I would have had to let is be raised in child care.